This really sucks that JournalSpace crashed. Fortunately I have a backup. The only downside is that I have part of my journal on live journal. A backup of my stuff on JournalSpace to 2006, and the rest on MySpace and Facebook. I’m hoping I can find some way of importing blogs from those 3 places into here. We’ll see, I guess
Lame
January 15th, 2009 by carpedickAwesomeness…one of the original
January 9th, 2009 by carpedickSo sad…
December 17th, 2008 by carpedickI just found out that a dear friend of mine died this weekend. I met him through my friend Jason over 8 years ago, when he was only 15.
His name, Todd Wallace AKA Todd Homme.
He grew up in Sac, went to Kennedy and grew up around his friends, Jason, Derek, and Tre. All four of them, gay as all heck, and flaming together.
I’m sad because I knew Todd, and I hung out with him a number of times. Even had him stay over a few times. He had an amazing personality, awesome talent, and was just an all around great guy.
He was recently on the Lifetime series Blush. He made it to the finals, but finished in 2nd place. It came to the end of the finale show and I saw a screen saying “Rest In Peace: Todd Wallace”. I thought, surely not as I’d just talked to him a few weeks ago to congratulate his work on the show and to say hi from back in his old days. I also passed along my friend Jason’s number, and he and Jason caught up.
Apparently he and his boyfriend went to bed for a nap, and he didn’t wake up. According to his mother…”I went to the medical examiner early today, and they took tissue samples from his organs and the doctor said they couldn’t find anything wrong with him,” said Amster. “No drugs, alcohol or pills.” Despite no prior heart condition, the examiners took tissue from the lining of his heart for testing after theorizing it could be related to his heart muscle, she said.
From this article.
He was truly an amazing guy. I know I’ll miss him and many others will as well.
Some old photos of him at my place…

Todd and Jason

Todd and Some other guy

Todd Sleeping on the Couch

Todd at the Computer with Jason
Surprise Blog! Milk!
December 12th, 2008 by carpedickI hate that I have to feel this way, but i feel sad for those who never feel this convicted towards anything…
I saw Milk tonight and to be honest, it moved me the way that reading my first book about Stonewall affected me. It’s this feeling of even though we’ve come so far, we have so much further to go.
Not even against just the religious people, but the apathetic among us, who feel as though we have enough and just want to sit back and coast for a bit. All the while the religious zealots, and those they can rally behind them, are ready to pounce on the slightest show of weakness.
And then there are the hardcore folks, the ones who seriously attack us on the basis that we shouldn’t even exist. That argue genetics, but who never finished high school. That can claim this is a choice, but have never met a single gay person. That repeat rhetoric that’s been passed down to them through parents, pastors, friends…it’s sad really.
The arguments have all been shut down, yet they continue to spout them, even though the proof shows otherwise. Procreation, “traditional” familial unit, slippery slope, choice, “special” privileges, they’ve become so standard that I know them by rote.
My boyfriend pointed out something that truly made me sad when I thought about it. Proposition 6 was the measure that had just been defeated before Milk was assassinated. It was to fire gay teachers and the supporters of gay teachers. The reason, because they were trying to influence children to become gay, to “recruit” new members. The sad part…I’m nearly 100% sure that in 1978, when I was 3 years old, that my parents voted for it. I know they voted for Prop 8. It hurts that they can look at me and tell me that I should be treated differently. That I should be convicted by their religious convictions…even if I don’t share them.
I’ve had arguments with people, and even when I refute all of their claims, it always comes back to “special rights” for a class of people that shouldn’t even be considered a class. Who choose to be what they are. I never had an argument until recently. It was pointed out to me and pointed out by many including Jon Stewart, from The Daily Show, that we confer special rights on religions. We give them tax free status, we give them leeway in some situations because they have religious ceremonies which some may find objectionable. Religion is for all intents and purposes, a choice. Yet, those same people who choose to be Christian, Mormon or whatever, turn around and deny us our rights, because of our so-called “choice”. It’s not, but even if it was, shouldn’t our choice be respected as much as theirs?
I could refute all the other claims, with the myriad of arguments that have gone before. But I’ll just leave it with this, since I’ve done it and don’t feel like rehashing. We deserve to be treated the same as any other citizen of this country. If a man wants to marry a woman, he should have the same right to marry a man. Flip that, reverse it, for women. No goats, no molestation, no spreading of our “choice” to anyone who doesn’t feel that way naturally. No talk or treatment of us as anything less than an equal human, or you’re just as bad the KKK, as the misogynists, as Hitler, all of which seek or s…crap, is the past tense of seek, suck? Anyway, all of which strove to drive down a set of people, remove their rights, and treat them as less than equal because of a misguided belief.
Be human, treat others like you want to be treated. It may be “jesusy”, but it’s a truth nonetheless.
Awesome Video
December 10th, 2008 by carpedickCheck it
Prop 8 the Musical
December 3rd, 2008 by carpedickImportant regarding HIV, this just came to my attention
November 13th, 2008 by carpedickApparently there is a treatment after being exposed to HIV. It’s been in use since 1996, but hasn’t been widely mentioned to people, and is mostly in use by health care workers.
It’s a treatment called PEP (Post-Exposure Prophylaxis). Basically, if a person thinks they’ve been exposed to HIV, they immediately tell their doctor and ask to be put on PEP. They are given very high doses of anti-HIV drugs immediately, preferably within 24 to 48 hours of exposure. This treatment has a very high success rate of completely getting rid of the HIV virus before it has a chance to get hold in a person’s system.
The thought is that it hasn’t been widely mentioned because it’s thought that groups would start to be more lax about their exposure, if they think that they have the equivalent of a “morning after” pill for HIV.
I have friends who are positive and would hate to think that they didn’t have access to all the information available which could potentially prevent even one infection. As such, I felt the need to post this along with the links below so that those interested can get the information they want/need.
More for your consideration
November 13th, 2008 by carpedickhttp://www.sacbee.com/1098/story/1392905.html
http://www.sacbee.com/1098/story/1392908.html
Organizations and individuals against and for Proposition 8. Check it out and act accordingly, whether it be boycott, or whatever.
Boycott Leatherby’s Family Creamery
November 12th, 2008 by carpedickDave Leatherby, owner, of Leatherby’s Family Creamery just recently stated that he’d donated $20,000 to the “Yes on 8” campaign because of his religious beliefs.
While I respect religious beliefs, trying to legislate based on them is wrong. It’s tantamount to approving of the government in Iran, a theocracy. Especially since religious folks in America are trying to legislate their morality and their laws and apply them to the whole of America.
Because of that, I will no longer be patronizing Leatherby’s. I was also offended at his statement that “… he is particularly confused because his business has participated in the annual gay pride Rainbow Festival.”
It’s this whole argument of “I think gay people are cool”, “I have gay friends”, and then “but I don’t agree that they should have the same rights as me.” It’s disingenuous to think that a person can be friendly to their gay friends and coworkers and then turn around and be fine with stripping them of their rights.
